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The Self You’ve Forgotten Is The One Who Can Save You!

The Self You’ve Forgotten Is the One Who Can Save You!
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The most powerful shift a woman can make isn't becoming someone new, it's remembering who she was before the world told her to shrink.

Kathryne Mejias
Reinvention Isn’t a Makeover, It’s a Homecoming
There has been a quiet, yet powerful, shift happening among women. Not one driven by trend, external validation, or even ambition, but by necessity. Whether catalysed by divorce, burnout, or an inner sense of misalignment, more and more women are finding themselves in a moment of reckoning. It’s not always loud. It often arrives in the stillness when life as it is no longer fits, and the question arises: Who am I outside of who I’ve been for others?

According to a 2023 study by the American Psychological Association, 67% of women going through divorce reported that identity confusion was their greatest emotional challenge, ranking even higher than financial fear or grief. This statistic offers insight into something deeper than situational stress. It points to a societal conditioning many women have internalized: that their worth and identity are tied to roles they occupy such as wife, mother, caregiver, or achiever, rather than who they are intrinsically.

But what happens when those roles dissolve? What’s left when the external scaffolding falls away? For many, what follows is not a crisis. It’s a calling.

Rather than rushing to redefine themselves, many women are choosing to return. They peel back the layers of social expectation and rediscover the self they’ve had to set aside. This process doesn’t begin with reinvention as much as it does with remembering. And remembering begins with awareness, the kind that cannot be outsourced or fast-tracked.

Kathryne Mejias
One of the most overlooked aspects of transformation is how inward it truly is. We live in a culture that prioritizes output: the visible, the productive, the tangible. But authentic transformation often starts with the invisible, mirror work, embodiment rituals, time alone, and inner dialogue. These practices may not make for flashy Instagram posts, but they are the slow, powerful roots of change.
This shift in how women approach transformation also reflects a broader psychological and cultural evolution. As society becomes more conscious of identity, agency, and emotional well-being, women are leading a quieter revolution. One that centers sovereignty, softness, and truth over performance or perfection.

We are seeing this echoed across industries, in leadership development spaces, and even within wellness and financial sectors. Just as conscious consumerism and investment shifted the marketplace, this inner revolution is shifting how women relate to themselves, and by extension, how they lead, love, and live.

The most powerful change a woman can make isn’t adding more to her plate or striving to become someone new. It’s subtracting everything she’s not. That clarity creates space for the self to rise. The woman who once felt lost wasn’t broken. She was buried.
kathryne mejias and sophie trudeau
[L-R]: Sophie Gregoire Trudeau & Kathryne Mejias At The Soulful Divorcee Event
A Practical Reflection: The 3-Minute Mirror Activation:

As a grounding practice, I often recommend a simple but potent daily ritual:

Stand in front of the mirror each morning. Look yourself in the eyes and say:

  •  “I accept you. I love you. I choose you.”
Then ask:
  • “What truth am I honouring in myself today?”

It’s not about fixing yourself. It’s about choosing to stand with yourself. Transformation isn’t found in reinvention. It’s found in reunion.

Reinvention, as many women are now discovering, is not about becoming someone new, it’s about returning to who they’ve always been beneath the noise. In a world that often demands performance over presence, this return to self is a radical act. It’s not a makeover; it’s a homecoming. A reclaiming. A quiet revolution rooted in authenticity, where true transformation begins not with changing one’s image, but with remembering one’s essence. As more women answer this call, they’re not just reshaping their lives . . . they’re redefining what it means to lead, live, and love from a place of wholeness.
About The Author: 
KATHRYNE MEJIAS

Founder, Born For More

Kathryne Mejias is the founder of Born for More, a speaker and mental health advocate who helps women transform divorce and life transitions into opportunities for healing and empowerment. Through coaching, energy work, and her Soulful Sessions, she guides women back to their authentic selves, drawing from her own journey and global experiences. Her upcoming book, The Soulful Divorcée, offers a fresh, empowering take on navigating divorce and reclaiming self-worth.

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